Stage 4 (Fowler's Stage 3) - Synthetic Conventional Faith (age 12 to 18 or 19) is the abstract thinking stage where new insights, anxieties, and commitments are forming. Teenagers are still guided by their parents belief systems and those of their peers. Their own beliefs and knowings are not quite formed yet. At this age a person's identity is forming where they ask themselves, who am I? How do others see me? What do others think about me?
Many people get stuck in this stage. I call this the "sheep mentality" type of thinking. This is where you follow what others think without really questioning whether it makes sense to you or whether it is really kind to others or self. If you're "stuck" in Stage 4, you will continue following your parents religious beliefs and the beliefs of those considered authority figures including the beliefs of your peers. This would indicate that a "locus of control" has not yet been developed which means an internal feeling that your personal choices can effect your life path does not yet exist. You would probably believe that the trajectory of your life path is up to other people's decisions and external events.
What keeps someone stuck in Stage 4?
The teen years is when many traumas and difficulties take place due to raging hormones, more risk taking, and experimentation with drugs and alcohol. These create the perfect scenario for devastating events and inner conflict. Almost everyone can come up with at least one event that is super hard during this time period in life. Its a time of much doubt and inner conflict even without difficult external circumstances. Its also when many people have their first feelings of love where the heart is hurt or broken.
If you haven't worked through these challenges, they still reside within your mind, emotions and body even if you're unaware of them. They stay put like an invisible undercurrent controlling how you respond to life even though your'e unaware of what is driving the behaviors.
Breaking out of Stage 4
The main goal of breaking out of Stage 4 is to be your own expert and to find your own answers. This doesn't mean you don't ask for other people's opinions. Its good to seek the council of others so you can look at all angles of a situation. However, all decisions should come from your own inner wisdom and inner council. Even if you decide, later on, that you made an error, this is how we all learn and grow so there are really no true errors.
Healing Process to break out of Stage 4
- Ask your Higher Self (HS) to direct and your optimal spiritual team to assist (spirits in the other realms/dimension that are more advanced than our human existence and have contracted to assist you in this lifetime). Ask for an energy of protection and energy of invisibility so only those spirits and guides that are optimal can participate and see in.
- Ask that all the work done is throughout your soul's history and beyond, all levels of your Being (your mind, emotions, and body) and all grid systems/energy fields that effect you using non-linear time to process.
- Ask that an energy comes into your brain disengaging you from viewpoints that are not in alignment with your own truth which is aligned with your own Spirit/HS.
- Ask that an energy comes into your aura (the egg shaped energy field around you) and etheric body (the blueprint of your mind, emotions, and body) focusing on your third eye (between your eyes that is considered your intuition) and brain increasing discernment and focus on what is best for your optimal growth.
- Ask that an energy comes into your medulla (the hollow in the center of your neck where your skull and neck meet) and up to your frontal lobe (a part of your brain) to activate expanded awareness and direction.
- Ask that an energy comes into your aura and etheric body releasing old relationship hurts and problems not fitting our new awareness and direction.
- Ask that points of light form a grid that becomes a part of your etheric body to release your brain's attachment to old emotions and the physical constructs that go with it.
- Ask that a beam of light goes into the liver to transmute old self judgement and anger at self.
- Ask that a rectangular energy goes around you representing "death of the old" so that your past can fully transform via this energy.
- Ask that your HS connects you to your "future self" where you are fully confident, discerning, and within your power which is aligned with your most mature and loving self.
- Ask that a strengthening and stabilizing energy comes in for optimal health and vitality so that your body accepts all positive changes as a positive with your HS deciding what that is.
- Ask that all grid systems/energy fields that effect you are restructured and recalibrated into the pattern that reflects the work you did today throughout all time and space and beyond, all appropriate dimension or until no longer needed.
- Ask that a no time, no space cocoon (kind of like a caterpillar cocoon) goes around you (you are asking that your brain moves out of linear time into what most of the universe contains--non-linear time) for a fast processing and upgrade of your energy system.
- Thank your HS for directing, your optimal spirit guides for assisting. Thank them for continuing to assist throughout completion of this process and beyond with your HS directing it.
As you move out of limited thinking and believing that other people hold the answers to your life, remember that there are no real errors when you make your own decisions. Its all about learning and growth. How can you move into true wisdom without learning from your own decisions?
Also remember that you are a Divine Being having a human experience. You are not your experiences. All experiences are part of an interesting adventure here on planet earth. Remember to enjoy the ride!