We all have challenging people in our lives. They are our designated lesson givers who volunteered to help us work through our issues and patterns in this lifetime. We may be lesson givers to them as well.
You may love them very much but worry about them not doing well or not wanting them to suffer. This can create a pattern of wanting to rescue or save someone causing guilt and co-dependence which develops an unhealthy connection to them. This same pattern is likely common in your ancestry and in many other lifetimes.
You may have very difficult lesson givers who are mentally, emotionally, physically or sexually abusive. You may have strong feelings of dislike, even hate, because of the harm they've caused you creating a victim and suffering pattern. The strong emotions you carry are like a poison that hurts you. This is also a pattern that is likely in your ancestry and in other lifetimes.
The challenging people in your life may become corded into your energy field, due to the patterns and issues they represent for you, which amplifies your pain.
Your issues and patterns create holes in your energy field that allow someone, who represents these things, to connect their energy field up to yours via what can be thought of as a cord or rope. Sometimes the cord appears at a hip or at the pelvis area or heart--depending on where we are carrying the pattern, issues and hurt within our body.
How can you tell they are corded to you? You may have physical symptoms such as a hip that is suddenly sore for no apparent reason. You may feel their anxiety and confusion which isn't usual for you. You may have lots of dark thoughts and feelings that are not the norm for you which may be the kind of things they are feeling and thinking. If someone has been corded into your field for an extended period of time, you may become used to it and really believe these are your emotions and thoughts. You may be carrying pain that you don't need to carry.
There is something you can do about it. You can put the intention that you want your Higher Self to direct and spirit guides (friends, ancestors, angels, higher dimensional Beings) to assist in removing the cord between the two of you. That way you can both be freed up from being connected to each other negatively and ask that you are connected only in the most optimal ways including full resolution and love.
The biggest thing you can do is work on your own issues and patterns. Also, forgiving yourself and others (forgiveness = letting it go) for any perceived or real harm that has been caused. This will ensure that people cannot cord into your energy field.
By doing this, it reverberates into your ancestral energy fields and the collective energy fields (including other lifetimes) contributing to transformation and healing for all people. Healing ourselves does heal others!
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