All of us know of how patriarchy (a male dominated society) has impacted women's lives over the past 5200 years. It is known that women were mentally and physically impacted by patriarchy.
Women were not considered equals intellectually, were considered the property of men until the 1920's and loosely until the 1950's (in the United States) and unable to have paid jobs until relatively recently.
In many countries, women have made huge strides with overcoming patriarchy. In the United States, more women are going to college than men.
Most people do not think of how patriarchy has affected men.
Men have been under the golden rule ("evil" spell) that having emotions is "sissy"--particularly crying. The only emotion acceptable is anger. Men's identity is based on their earning power which breeds power and control issues along with being patted on the back for having sex with as many women as possible to prove that they are manly.
Of course this is a stereotype and not every man has followed this or acts this out. However, it still has its impact on the collective male.
All of these things keep men disconnected from their Spirit. This is due to lack of emotions, competition and greed along with sexuality lacking in emotional intimacy and sacredness in connecting with another person.
I don't see as much progress for men as women in transforming patriarchy.
I talked the other day to Mae Sylvester about this topic. Mae has had many careers in her lifetime including politics, consulting and most recently retiring from the U of M's medical school. Mae said (in response to my banter about this), "whatever happened to the 'Men's Movement?' Somehow a true men's movement was forgotten." She inspired me to think of how we need to actively change this.
After talking to Mae, I excitedly called soul family Butch Williams, a former NHL player, about this topic and how it has affected him in his life. Particularly since he was in such a competitive, aggressive sport.
Butch said that lack of emotions and extreme competition at any cost is rampant in the sport. He said it developed his personality--particularly since his dad was a semi-pro hockey player and his brother, Tommy Williams, was also an NHL hockey player.
We talked about how there's a need to change the paradigm for all men if they're to feel free to be themselves--whatever this means for each individual.
What I believe we're seeking (for both men and women) is authenticity--the permission and freedom for all of us to fully be ourselves which includes self-love and self-acceptance. By having these important qualities, we have an authentic humanity and cosmos where we love and accept each other.
Look for more on this topic from me (soon) along with a healing process to go with it. :)